One of the most common concerns we see from clients is that they have low self-esteem or a poor self-image. This is often triggered by past traumas but is perpetuated by the language they unconsciously use towards themselves. We work with clients to change this inner monologue so they can have a healthier relationship with themselves and lead a more fulfilling life as a result. Here are 3 things we often recommend to our clients to help change this:
1. Start the day with a “good morning” to yourself
One of the first things we all do in the morning (usually after attending to natures call) is look in the mirror. A lot of people find this a very despondent task as they are confronted with a wildly unkempt version of themselves. We recommend that our clients take this chance to smile at themselves and greet themselves with a hearty “good morning!”. This simple step releases serotonin and starts the day with a positive message that carries through the rest of it.
2. Talk to yourself as if you were your best friend
Many people will be overly self-critical and quick to speak negatively to themselves about their perceived flaws. We recommend to our clients to think about these criticisms they are saying to themselves and ask “would I say this to my best friend/child/loved one?”. More often they not, they wouldn’t dream of talking to someone they care about in the way they do to themselves. This simple checking of the speech allows clients to realise the unhealthy inner language they are using to they can begin to challenge it and change it to something more positive.
3. Write a list of 5 positive affirmations about yourself
Changing the way we think about ourselves comes through changing the language we use when we think. A really good way to do this is to write a list of statements about yourself that you don’t believe, but that you absolutely should! Common examples of these are “I am beautiful”, “I am kind” & “I am enough”. Now write this list out as many times as you need, put copies everywhere you will see it regularly – on the fridge, in your purse/wallet, as a note on your phone or on your mirror. Every time you see this list, read it to yourself, take that time to remind yourself that you are all these things and so much more!
Through these steps and working with our clients to improve their quality of life (improving sleep, lowering stress, addressing fears and problematic behaviours) we help our clients gain back control of how they speak to themselves thus giving them more power to see themselves as everyone else does. We truly believe that everyone can be an amazing, capable and unstoppable person if they had a better self-image ... often we are the ones preventing us from doing what we really want by believing that we aren’t worth it. Changing the language you use when you’re in the privacy of your own head can have a huge image on every area of your life, so why not see how it can help you do all those things you’ve dreamed of?
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